Becoming Us Online

On first watch I kept flipping back and forth on whether or not this is supposed to be scripted reality. Reading the blurb here on IMDb they are saying it is reality, and UNscripted...

The problem is how much of the reality seems to be massaged. So many of the scenes seem scripted.

I do think a lot of it may definitely be staged and setup and that makes it lose the "realness" of it. A few times throughout I was snapped out of the subject matter by how certain characters were saying and doing things - which felt forced and unrealistic - so much of it didn't feel natural, at all.

They are choosing to tell the stories and show the people in seemingly very clichéd and one dimensional ways. It definitely appears they are trying to setup this "sister villain Bridezilla" thing, and pressing the melodrama for all it's worth, and that worries me.

I do worry about the network and creators stretching and staging this 'reality' into being more melodramatic for effect and entertainment, than a real representation of the family and people therein.

And that's the thing... There are supposed to be real lives and actual emotions on the line here, the stakes are so high that scripting and staging them so blatantly seems unnecessary and untoward. By this point we know that reality TV isn't all that real, but there are some things that just seem more deserving of being portrayed honestly. This is one of them, but sadly the honesty is not there.

They owed it to the subject matter to be more authentic and honest. This could have been groundbreaking and beautiful and emotional. But it just wasn't "real" enough to get me to care.

Being transgender not only affects you but also the ones you love. People may have different feelings about it and the idea of this show is to discuss that. This could be a really informative, good show that teaches people. But it falls short.

Ben is a highschool student whose parent is going through the process from Charlie to Carly. Ben's girlfriend Danielle also has a parent who has gone through the same changes to becoming female. Is this really a coincidence that these two teens are dating and both have parents going through big changes? Or did the producers kind of just set up Danielle and Ben because they knew these kids had a similarity? It is never told in the show how Danielle and Ben actually meet.....

Later in an episode, one of Ben's friends comes out as transgender. What a coincidence, a third transgender person in this show! How common is that? I believe that all 3 of these people really are transgender. But I also believe the network/producers coaxed these people along together to form the story of the show. I doubt these people even knew each other before the idea of the show came along.

I think this is a great show and wish people would leave their prejudices at the door and give it a fair chance. I see two wonderful families working to communicate and understand each other for who they really are instead of molding each person into the stereotype they are supposed to fit into without communication and acceptance like I've seen in too many families. I love how they are learning to communicate, understand each other, love each other as they are, and learning to be together with all needs considered and met instead of some assertive or patriarchal personality at the top dictating who everyone is supposed to be without any regard for people's feelings. I see healthy communication and healthy effort building a healthy family. I love this show, and I hope it is on for many seasons.

All shows have flaws. But I like this one, and here's why. Gender identity is having a much needed and well deserved moment in American culture and in Hollywood. It's past time for us to understand this issue and put our ignorant rants and biases behind us. This is a great show to help us get there.

If you take away nothing else from this show, please understand this: 1) Gender identity and sexual orientation are two entirely separate things. 2) Talk. Listen. With an open mind an open heart. 3) Everyone's thoughts and feelings come from a place of honesty for them. Receive them as such and your conversation will continue and go deeper.

Caitlyn Jenner has just emerged as a transgender woman. She is one end of the spectrum -- a huge name that will help immensely to propel understanding of what it means to be transgender. Becoming Us represents the other end of the spectrum which is real, average families that love each other and are trying hard to deal with something difficult outside of the world of celebrity.

Spoil alert!! Honestly Carly is super selfish and self centered... let your adolescent SON call you Dad. The fact that she feels as though it is not honoring who she is now discredits and diminishes who she was... BENS FATHER. Ben who is trying to just get through puberty and desperately needs his dad is asked to basically throw that out the window. The sister just cries every time she's on camera. I wish they stopped her storyline all together. its cheesy and weird. Ben's mom needs to go on a date and move on with her life because she clearly is still in love with her trans ex. I hope the Ben is setting aside money from this for his future therapy he will inevitably will need. They should just stop following Ben and follow Danielle his awesome ex girlfriend. Either way this show is pretty awful.

When the show first premiered it wasn't a "planned watch" it just happened to be on in the background while I was doing other things. I actually thought it was going to be quite boring. However, the following week I decided to give it a real go and watch it in it's entirety and started to like it. Now each week I have been watching it and enjoy it. I liked seeing that the families are communicating and don't seem to hold things back and if they do eventually they come around. I also like seeing Carly communicate and have fun with everyone at the parties for her step-daughter's upcoming wedding. I hope to see Carly in many more group type settings. I know her mother is very bitter about it all,who wouldn't be upset right? However, Carly just seems very open and likable, a genuine person so it's hard not to not like her! I do agree with a few other posters (users/commenters) who say some of it seems scripted, but you are going to have that in ANY reality show. Life isn't one ball of fun, they need to fill the empty spaces with things or the audience will be lost. The show is not meant for bigots. Although, if they gave it a chance maybe they could at least see that there ARE many types of people and that my friend IS...reality. I guess this isn't much of a "review" rather it is more of my opinion on liking the show, but that's what I have to say about it! :)

I don't understand why this disgusting abomination was allowed to air on National Television. These Men are just sick minded individuals who have actually tricked themselves into thinking they are women, and "transformed" themselves, thus ruining their family and confusing their poor children. I will be completely honest here, because I say My opinions even if people don't like it, I am not a supporter of Being a Gay, or Transgeder. I believe by teaching people that this is acceptable, that We are doing a disservice to our youth coming up, because it is far from natural, and far from the word of God. I feel bad for these poor kids, having to deal with their perverted confused Father's foolishness like this, and on live television were anybody can see their business! I am a harsh critic, and this is by far the worst show that has ever been on T.V! Take it off now! For my sake, and the rest of the world!